Coaching People through Conflict Practicum

“I never knew forgiveness could be so powerful!” “The most practical training I ever received!” “Why didn’t I get this training at seminary?” “I put this training to use that very week!”

These quotes illustrate what people have shared with us after attending a Coaching People through Conflict Practicum. Since God promises that His Word produces fruit, you can be confident that many who attend the Coaching Practicum will implement dramatic changes in their relationships to God and people.

Who Should Attend?

Assisting others to reconcile and resolve conflicts biblically is a difficult task. And yet God appoints us, as his ambassadors, to share the good news about his reconciliation to us through Christ and to be reconciled to each other.

The Coaching People through Conflict Practicum prepares leaders – pastors, elders and other lay leaders, teachers, administrators, parents – to guide other people in their conflicts through coaching one-on-one. Almost everyone can benefit from this training, since all of us at times give advice to others on responding to conflict. This training is especially helpful for church leaders, since the church is meant to be a place where its members can seek help in applying God’s message of reconciliation to their personal conflicts.

During the practicum, you will attend two intense days of practicing coaching skills. Your instructor team demonstrates specific skills, and then you practice them with a partner. The first day you will practice parts of coaching exercises. The second day you will experience two longer coaching sessions, both as a coach and as a party. Each participant receives a study guide and a booklet, Guiding People through Conflict by Ken Sande and Ted Kober (Peacemaker Ministries, 2005).

A special feature of this training includes “Getting to the Heart of Conflict,” wherein participants will learn how to recognize the idolatry that often underlies conflict. As part of this module, students do an actual self-examination to learn about their own idolatrous temptations, and are invited to take part in a private confession and forgiveness exercise. Ministry leaders will find this training extremely practical and useful for coaching others.

A former participant shared: “When I first learned biblical peacemaking, I thought it would change my ministry. It did much more – it changed my life!”

Benefits of This Practicum

In the Coaching People through Conflict Practicum, you will learn how to assist people in conflict. You’ll study key Scripture passages and acquire new tools for remembering the basic principles and applying them in everyday conflicts. Past participants report how they used these tools and principles to help others resolve everything from family squabbles to complicated lawsuits.

Here’s what one person shared after receiving this training:

Everyone at our family Christmas gathering acted like nothing was wrong. But Uncle Bob refused to come because his son Roger and daughter-in-law Barb were invited. Roger and Barb didn’t show up either, for fear his parents would be there. What a way to celebrate the coming of the Prince of Peace!

I wondered what I could do. But in my reconciliation training, I learned that conflict provides three godly opportunities for the Christian. I realized that my opportunity was to try conflict coaching. So I met separately with my cousin and uncle, not sure if it would really make a difference.

The next spring at an anniversary celebration, Uncle Bob, Roger and Barb were all there, sitting together at the table, laughing and talking. Everyone took notice. I quietly thanked Jesus for reconciliation and the opportunities I learned about the ministry of reconciliation.

Sometime later, I attended a meeting where our church leadership considered starting a reconciliation ministry. My uncle urged our church to move forward on this, indicating that my coaching him on conflict moved him to reconcile with his family. And he wanted everyone in our church to benefit from the same kind of ministry that he received from me.

You will be challenged in the same way to live, proclaim, and cultivate lifestyles of reconciliation in the family, workplace, and church.

Imagine what could happen if trained reconcilers could help people in your church or school reconcile – with their parents, with brothers and sisters, with co-workers, with former employers, with neighbors, with lawsuit opponents, even with fellow members of the church!

How Can My Church/Organization Make the Most of This Training Opportunity?

When a church or other organization sponsors this practicum, it often encourages more of its own members to attend. A church with several trained conflict coaches will be blessed as they can serve its members. It can also help the church to begin building a reconciliation ministry.

By the way, a great way to maximize participation in the Coaching Practicum and encourage people to attend is to host a Go and Be Reconciled: What Does This Mean? seminar a few weeks or months prior to the practicum. Of course, this is not a requirement, but only a great idea to take fuller advantage of a reconciliation training opportunity.

Who Should Attend?

The Coaching People Through Conflict Practicum is ideal for anyone who advises others in conflicts. Thus, pastors, principals, elders and other lay leaders, teachers, business owners, executive and mid-level managers, counselors, social workers, and human resource managers all benefit from this training. But in reality, anyone who has the opportunity to advise others on dealing with a specific conflict will enjoy this training.

Pre-Course Study

Participants begin their learning through reading Pre-Course Materials for Coaching:

  • Go and Be Reconciled: What Does This Mean? by Ambassadors of Reconciliation

These books provide practical guidance on personal peacemaking and living a lifestyle of reconciliation. The practicum builds on these basic teachings, helping leaders understand more fully how to apply these concepts to their own relationships as well as helping others.

Registering for a Practicum

To register for a scheduled practicum, see Scheduled Seminars and Practicums.

Click here to learn about Practicum Fees.

Scheduling and Hosting a Practicum

The two-day practicum usually runs from 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. each day.

Hosts usually provide the space and refreshments for breaks. Fees for lunch or lodging may be added to the costs of registration.

If you are interested in hosting a practicum, please call 406-698-6107 or email at